Saturday, November 6

Home Birth

This is a long-overdue posting, which I meant to write shortly after Shahar was born, more than 11 weeks ago.
Shahar wasn't born in a hospital, but with a (fantastic!) midwife, in what is formally labelled as a "home birth". A big portion of the comments we got following the labor were of shock and surprise, often questioning whether we made a safe choice. Some people decisively said that having a home birth was a risky, not to say irresponsible, thing to do.

I spent a lot of time researching the subject, and figured I'll share some information, which might be of interest to some of you. I have a lot say about the subject, I hope this piece won't end up being way too long...

I'll start with a description of our personal birthing history.
Noga was born, 10 years ago, in a traditional hospital in Petah-Tiqwa, Israel. Back then, we weren't even aware of the option to give birth outside of a hospital. A few hours into labor, Anat chose to get an epidural shot, and the labor was long, difficult and traumatic. Eventually, Noga was pulled out using a combination of vacuum and forceps, on the verge of sending us to a C-Section.

2.5 years later, prior to Hadas' birth, Anat knew she wanted to insist on a natural birth, without an epidural. In an act we both fail to understand to this very day, we returned to the same hospital. Despite promises that they allow natural birth (notice, not encourage), the reality in the hospital labor room was very different. In theory, Anat was allowed to walk around the room and mitigate her pains with movement. But in practice, the crew wanted to constantly have a monitor attached to her. And while walking the monitor detaches, so, back to the position loved by physicians - lie on your back, without utilizing gravitation, with limited ability to move your pelvis as a way to cope with pain during contractions.
Only after a lot of insistence on our part, and standing up to a doctor that appeared to be shocked by an opinion coming from the other side of the birthing bed, Anat was allowed to give birth on her hands and knees (rather than on her back), a position suitable to her anatomy.

This second labor was a lot shorter (less than 2 hours), and a lot less painful, but the unnecessary medical intervention was so blatant that it was clear to us we'd explore other options the next time.

With Maayan, in Pittsburgh, PA, we turned to a great midwife center, in early stages of the pregnancy. The experience was so strikingly positive, that we couldn't believe it. It felt like 180 degrees from what we had previously encountered in hospital births.

Less than 3 months ago, we had a very similar positive experience, when giving birth to Shahar, in Israel, in Mindy Levy's Agoola birthing center.

To remove any doubt - there was nothing special about the hospital Noga and Hadas were born in. Stories shared by other women in a group meeting in the midwife center, described an almost identical attitude to birthing in US hospitals.

Simply put, in a hospital it felt like the crew wanted to manage the delivery, instructing the woman what to do. On the other hand, A trained midwife helps the woman to manage her own labor, and boy, what a difference that makes!

Now, if you had the patience to read until here, you're probably saying something like - "this is all very nice, but what about emergencies, when a medical intervention IS desperately needed?"

Ah, an excellent question, which I'll happily try to answer.

Let's first get some preliminaries out of the way:
- There should be a clear distinction between assisted home birth and unassisted home birth. Obviously, I'm praising the former.
- Midwives accept only women with low-risk pregnancy. Any birth of twins, breech (מצג עכוז) or the like would always start in a hospital.
- Midwifery is a well-defined profession, with extensive medical training. A trained midwife is capable of conducting many of the typical procedures upon emergency (such as resuscitation).
- A good midwife, at the first sign of complication during labor, will make the necessary decision to go with the birthing woman to the nearest hospital.

Now to your question. There is a solid body of academic research about the subject.
Almost none of the studies challenge the conclusion that home births are better for the mother's health.
And as for perinatal mortality and severe perinatal morbidity, the vast majority of studies conclude that assisted home birth is as safe as hospital birth.

Since you had to read a lot until here, you can choose to simply trust me.
Or if you, like me, are convinced only by seeing the data, read on below :-)

Cheers,
Giora


- Janssen et al., in a study from 2009 (http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/rapidpdf/cmaj.081869v1, see also abstract) conclude that:
"Planned home birth attended by a registered midwife was associated with very low and comparable rates of perinatal death and reduced rates of obstetric interventions and other adverse perinatal outcomes compared with planned hospital birth attended by a midwife or physician."


- de Jonge et al., in a Dutch cohort from 2009, spanning more than half a million women (http://novahomebirth.vamginc.com/safe/documents/DutchHomebirthStudy.pdf), conclude:
"This study shows that planning a home birth does not increase the risks of perinatal mortality and severe perinatal morbidity among low-risk women, provided the maternity care system facilitates this choice through the availability of well trained midwives and through a good transportation and referral system."


- A recent meta-analysis study by Wax et al. (http://download.journals.elsevierhealth.com/pdfs/journals/0002-9378/PIIS000293781000671X.pdf) claimed the opposite, and stirred a lot of buzz, including citation in regular papers (like Haaretz in Israel):
"Less medical intervention during planned home birth is associated with a tripling of the neonatal mortality rate".

However, upon closer examination, I was convinced that this study was severely flawed, for several reasons:
1. It didn't distinguish between assisted and unassisted home births, which is a crucial distinction. I read a comment by someone (though didn't see any data), that when applying that distinction, the above conclusion no longer holds.
2. It gave similar weights to studies with very small samples (few dozens of women), and to studies with very large samples (in the thousands and sometimes hundreds of thousands).
3. See an example response, explaining why the meta-analysis was flawed, pointing to some perplexing deficiencies. Well, not really perplexing - the issue of home birth is politically charged, and some would say that every study in the field is biased by the authors' opinion.

Note that, interestingly, even that study didn't question the fact that home birth was superior for the woman's health: "These women were less likely to experience lacerations, hemorrhage, and infections."


- A factor many people omit when considering risk, is the personal familiarity of the medical crew. A midwife typically conducts full prenatal care, and when labor arrives, she's intimately familiar with the birthing woman. This is with striking contrast to what happens in a hospital. Another related factor is the personal care during labor - a midwife is present during the whole labor, 1-on-1, which in most hospitals is certainly not the case.
Note that these factors aren't just for better atmosphere during labor; they dramatically increase the chances of identifying complications early on, and avoiding an emergency.





Friday, October 22

Photos

Dear family and friends,

We've been a bit negligent in sharing recent photos. But better late than never...
See our Picasa albums, and specifically this album, which features a smiling Shahar :-)

Cheers,
Anat & Giora

Tuesday, October 19

Could Social Networks Foster Social Activism?

These days, with the hype around "The Social Network" movie, and when Social Media in general is celebrate as a revolutionary enabling factor for social activism, I found Malcolm Gladwell's recent piece in the New Yorker - http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2010/10/04/101004fa_fact_gladwell?currentPage=all - particularly illuminating.

Insightful as always, Gladwell explains (convincingly, in my opinion), that while the Internet and Social Media have numerous benefits, fostering true real-life activism isn't one of them.
The article isn't short (again, as always...), but I think it's certainly worth the time.
Cheers,
Giora

Sunday, October 3

Chauvinism

I consider myself a Feminist, and I'm proud of it. I do my best to act accordingly in everything I do, especially when it comes to raising and educating my kids.

Turns out that having a son after three daughters prompts quite a few people around us to offer comments with a blatant chauvinistic flavor. It was truly saddening to see how ingrained chauvinism is in so many people. The precise wording doesn't really matter (an example would be "At last! Now you've finally got a diamond in the family!"), but more importantly - there's no mistaking the intention expressed, that having a boy is better than having a girl.

Needless to say - I don't subscribe to this point of view. I can't imagine I'd ever love my child more (or less) due to their gender. In the beginning, I used to murmur something about a 4th daughter having been equally welcomed. Lately, I've decided to simply ignore such remarks, wishing that I would have been spared hearing them altogether.

Giora

Israel - State of the Nation Report

Disclaimer: if you don't deeply care about Israel, you might want to skip this posting.

I recently became aware of a fascinating report, titled "State of the Nation Report – Society, Economy and Policy 2009" (see full pointers, also to the report in English, at the bottom of this posting), published a few months ago by the Taub Center.
It's not uncommon to read and hear discussions in the media, which are practically based on intuitions, assumptions or even prejudice.
This report is based on hard economic data, examining high-level and long-term trends. I think it makes it an unusually important and educating read.

Not many of you are likely to read the full (very long) document.

Enjoy,
Giora



Monday, September 27

Letting Go. And Becoming Happier!

Summary of previous chapters:
- Shahar, a perfect baby otherwise, wasn't successful in nursing.
- In parallel to feeding him expressed breast milk from bottles, we invested tremendous efforts in trying to teach him how to nurse. We employed the most professional lactation consultant one can find, and a lot of emotions, tears, stress, time, money and effort were put into achieving this goal.
- Despite fantastically gaining weight and getting bigger, Shahar hasn't been able to get sufficient milk directly, from his Mom's breast.

A few days ago we decided to let go. And what a transformation this has been for the entire family!

We decided to continue with intensive breast milk pumping, and we hope to avoid any substitutes as long as possible. Anat's body magically produces more-than-enough breast milk (approaching 1 liter a day! We're considering the possibility of no longer purchasing milk in the grocery store ;-)
Expressing milk 6 times a day is labor-intensive (since it doesn't replace the feeding itself), but ironically it seems so much easier than the previous weeks that were marked by the stress of "will he manage to nurse?". Quite like that Jewish folklore tale about the Rabbi and the Goat...

Instead of stressful sessions of attempted nursing, we're all busy enjoying our wonderful baby, who's been growing rapidly, becoming more charming by the day. His sisters, who were very stressed by their parents' gloomy mood, are evidently happier and more relaxed. Heaven!

Giora

Monday, September 13

Google Instant (and me)

These days I'm on Paternity Leave, and thanks to Google's generosity as an employer, I get fully-paid 4 weeks at home with Shahar - a benefit unheard of in the Israeli market.
Combined with regular vacation and the September Jewish holidays I'll end up being absent from my workplace, and getting to know my new baby, which is certainly a luxury.

Rarely did I use this blog to write about professional matters. But there's a good reason for an exception now. I mentioned to some of you that the months leading to Shahar's birth were particularly hectic at work. Now I can fully explain why...
Last week Google officially launched Google Instant (showing search results with every letter you type).
I encourage you to try it out - it works only in www.google.com (not in www.google.co.il, or in the Toolbar search box etc.). You might find it weird at first, but I strongly believe that once you get used to it, you'll love it.

This complex project was obviously a huge effort inside Google, and the fruit of many many engineers working together. I'm very proud to say that my team, and myself personally, took an inherent role in driving this project to completion.
If you go to the launch event video, and jump to 49:30 minutes after its start, you'll even hear this explicitly. Prizes to those who would recognize my tiny photo among all the others there ;-)
Those of you who read Hebrew may also look at a relevant TheMarker article.

If you're a tech-geek (like me...), and are interested in some technical details, I recommend the ~10 minutes in that video, starting 37:40 minutes after its beginning.
Othar Hansson and Ben Gomes (with whom I work very closely) gave there what I think was an excellent explanation.

Cheers,
Giora


Sunday, September 12

Getting Better

I realized that since reporting on our difficulties, about how Shahar was not gaining weight, I haven't posted an update. Well, I have an excuse, we were fairly busy...

Bottom line first - things are a lot better now.

Shahar has no serious medical problems, or any inherent growth issues, only some breastfeeding difficulties - he's having a hard time nursing.
Both Anat and I value breastfeeding tremendously, and are willing to go to great lengths in order for our kids to grow on breast milk (see more below).
That being said, 12 days ago, with weight loss and no bowel movements, there could be a lot worse causes, and we were very happy when it became evident that none of them proved to be real.

So, we first gave up (temporarily) on nursing, got Anat pumping breast milk, and myself feeding it to Shahar using a bottle. Within a few days, Shahar started eating beautifully, gaining weight and spraying poop generously...
We then got an excellent lactation consultant involved, and she diagnosed Shahar as having a tied tongue. We consulted a specialist, and ended up snipping Shahar's tied tongue; surprisingly to me, it turns out to be a not-terribly-painful, and fairly standard procedure. Shahar's nursing abilities have started improving as a result, but naturally not magically so. In the last 5 days, Anat is breastfeeding Shahar, with effectiveness mildly increasing by the day, and some fortification of pumped breast milk from a bottle. Typically, the middle-of-the-night meal is bottle-only, to allow Anat some sleep. Most importantly, we're happy that he is drinking only breast milk.
We still have a long way to go until Shahar will comfortably depend on nursing only, gaining weight steadily while doing so, but hopefully we'll get there within a few weeks.

The past week and a half were certainly hectic and challenging, but I believe we're in the right direction.

Cheers,
Giora

Tuesday, August 31

Difficulties

Our first 13 days at home with Shahar were so calm and peaceful, that it was hardly believable this was a house with a newborn.
He generally didn't protest about anything - a meal every 3 hours or so, and in between sleeping wrapped inside his favorite baby carrier, on our bodies, was all he was wishing for. Well, at least that's what we thought...

However, today we found out that Shahar hasn't been gaining weight as expected, and he's actually about 350 grams below his birth weight.
We were advised that this, combined with lack of bowel movement in the last 5-6 days, implies that he should be breast fed more, and more often.
So, starting earlier today, Anat has been breast feeding him pretty much continuously, including waking him up every 2 hours if he was still asleep.
Our immediate goal is seeing a bowel movement. Honestly - I never thought I'd ever wait so anxiously to see a diaper full of poop! :-)

We had raised 3 babies, and never had to do anything special in order for them to gain weight as newborns. Certainly a new challenge for us.
Clearly, so little sleep for Anat, with very limited ability of mine to make it easy on her, would make our lives a lot more difficult.
Combine this with circumcision (planned this Friday, after a lot of debate and deliberations we decided the social reality in Israel makes it the right choice for us), a start of a new school year for the girls tomorrow, and the constant stream of envious feelings expressed by Maayan - and we're probably facing a bumpy couple of weeks.

Hopefully sooner rather than later things will get on track again, and we'll end up stronger, knowing we've beaten all the difficulties...

Cheers,
Giora




Monday, August 30

Photos, mostly of Shahar

Due to popular demand, we've uploaded some recent photos - see http://picasaweb.google.com/AnatGiora/WelcomeShahar#

Enjoy,
Giora

Wednesday, August 18

Welcome Shahar Unger!!!

Dear family and friends,

We're thrilled to share some happy news with you all!
This morning, around 11am, Shahar Unger (שחר, free translation: Dawn) has joined our family. He burst out to this world - less than 3 hours from first contraction to first (baby) scream, and made all of us extremely happy. We came back home from the birthing center (not a hospital, but on that in another post) after a few more hours.

Shahar weighs 3.260kg, modest compared to all his sisters, and since labor he mostly sleeps. Anat is expectedly tired, but is feeling well and happy to be home with the most beautiful and perfect baby boy we could ever ask for :-)

Hugs and kisses,




Thursday, August 12

A decade of parenthood

Dear family and friends,

This brief posting is meant to convey one thing - happiness.
I realize it might come across as somewhat corny, but I'll take that risk :-)

There are certainly also negative things going on in my life - my back is giving me a lot of pain, not allowing me any regular and fun exercise; my general health is not at its best; Anat is weak and tired of the pregnancy (getting there, real soon now...).
However, these are minor compared to having Maayan, Hadas and Noga and living our routine family life. The love and affection I get from these 3 princesses is something I can't explain in words. Cuddling with Maayan when she goes to bed, hugging and kissing Hadas when she wakes up, caressing Noga (well, when she allows me, she's now literally a teenager...) and chatting with her about this and that - all these little things make me very happy.

Two days ago, we celebrated Noga's birthday and 10 years of parenthood for us.
These have undoubtedly been the best 10 years of my life!

Giora

Wednesday, July 14

To Circumcise or Not To Circumcise?

Dear family and friends,

As I previously shared in this blog, we're expecting our 4th child, due in early September.
And since this is going to be our first baby boy, we're facing a dilemma. Putting it simply:
To Circumcise or Not To Circumcise?

I guess y'all know that we're Jewish, and that in Israel the definite norm is circumcising. In a way, not circumcising a boy might later alienate him socially.
But, since the religious motive is irrelevant to us, and since there are good reasons not to circumcise, we're not at all sure we want to.

We started talking to people about the issue, and did some reading.
We value your opinions, and we're keenly interested in hearing them - either in person, in a personal email or in a comment to this post.

Thanks a lot!

Anat & Giora

Tuesday, July 13

The photos are finally out!

Yes, it's been a long long while since we've published any photos. Bad us.
Now, thanks to Anat, there are quite a few of them, showcasing our life in Haifa, Israel, during 2009 and 2010.

Hugs,
Maayan, Hadas, Noga, Anat & Giora

Sunday, May 2

En Route to California

Dear family and friends,

I'm sitting in a plane now, on my way to California. Yet another business trip, this time only one week long.
The journey is very tedious (it's been 24 hours since I left home, and two hours before I'll land in San Francisco), and the schedule I arranged this time is particularly hectic. If all goes as planned, I'll drive from the airport to the Google campus, work a few hours, then attend a private session in Palo Alto (attempting to improve my posture and alleviate my back pains), and then straight to Yosemite with my friends Dan and Tamar... Pretty crazy. Hopefully I won't be too tired to enjoy hiking.

If it was totally up to me, I'd skip business trips entirely. I don't like being away from my family, and this time, with Anat halfway through a pregnancy, it's even harder than usual. But I feel that as part of a job with Google, an occasional trip (say once a year) is necessary. As such, I'd rather travel now and not closer to the due date, let alone shortly afterwards.

With the risk of repeating a posting of mine from October, I'll mention that visiting the US is very strange for me. On one hand, I'm technically a visitor now. On the other hand, it feels very much like home (most precisely, another home). I don't feel a foreigner, which I did when visiting many years ago, before living here.
I'm used to the welcoming pros (variety of people and ethnicities, polite behavior when standing in lines), and the familiar cons (try and get a decent fresh vegetable salad at JFK...).
I touched quite a bit on identities during the present journey. In the train to the airport in Israel, I was chatting with a young women, who immigrated to Israel (made "Aliya") from Uruguay when she was 20 yo. She told me about a drastic identity switch she underwent. Later on the plane, I conversed with the woman who sate next to me, born and raised in Israel, who's been living in New York for the past 10 years.

I can identify with that my identity with that, since my identity also underwent a change, even if subtle, when living in the US.

Giora

Monday, March 29

Expanding the Family...

Dear friends,

It is our great pleasure to let you know that we're expecting our 4th child!
We were certain that like all previous cases in our family, this was going to be a girl. But, in an unexpected turn of events, this is going to be a baby boy :-)
Anat is feeling well, and naturally is very tired. Most importantly, as far as the ultrasound can tell, the embryo is healthy and is developing as expected.

Noga, Hadas & Maayan were very happy to hear the news. Well, we suspect Maayan (3 years old) doesn't really understand the implications, but she declared she was happy...

Since tonight is the Passover holiday feast (ליל הסדר), may we wish all of you who celebrate it - Happy Passover!

Anat & Giora

Saturday, February 20

My Aching Back

Dear family and friends,

This blog is for sharing what's going on with me, both good and bad, so I decided to share that the past few months haven't been entirely pleasant for me.
I mentioned a few months ago that my back pains forced me to stop playing basketball. Ever since, not only did the problems not go away, but the pain has gotten much worse, and is a constant part of my life. I'm still fully functional, but most of the time I am in pain. Not a terrific feeling, as you can imagine.
I'm getting treatment that is aimed at taking care of local symptoms (such as Shiatsu), but I think that I need to try and handle the root cause, so that back pains will not recur. I believe the root cause of my back problems lies in my bad posture. Sadly, not many treatments claim that they can change that, and one which I've tried in the past (Alexander Technique) totally failed to help me.
In my quest for anything that would alleviate my pain I came across Esther Gokhale's fascinating book, "8 Steps to a Pain-Free Back" (see also her web site at http://egwellness.com/, and an introductory video). If only for the intellectual insights, I warmly recommend taking a look at the book and the method's premises. I went through her workshop, which was held in Israel, and started following the advice offered by the Gokhale Method. So far I can't say I feel substantial improvement, but I'm still hopeful that I will...

Giora